We’re halfway through SIOL now, and I admit to feeling some serious ruffled cardigan fatigue. I am really loving how quickly I can get dressed, and there’s no question that I’m starting to obsess less because there’s so much less to obsess over. I packed for two overnight trips last week at what felt like the speed of light.
But, as you’ll recall, I started this whole business to find some balance in my love/hate relationship with the closet. And now I’m missing the love. There’s a level of resignation to my non-obsessing. I get dressed in three seconds but it’s more “what’s the point?” than liberating. I feel like I’ve played around with just about every possible combination of the Six and my accessories collection… and I’m out of ideas. Which is surely not true (I have a lot of accessories) so it’s more that I’ve lost the energy for it. Most days, I’m either wearing the navy sweater with the yellow and turquoise scarf I discovered in Week #1, or the outfit you see above. Which are both super cute and comfy and all good things. And yet.
But then I was catching up on the blogs, and saw this quote from Kate Young, the stylist responsible for Natalie Portman’s pink pregnant Golden Globes confection, among other triumphs. The Cut asked her what one item every woman should have in her closet (because fashion blogs love to ask stylists questions like that).
One dress that makes you feel good. It would be easy to say something in particular, like a little black dress, but that’s not right for everybody. If you’re a potter and you live in Woodstock, a black dress is dumb. I think everyone should have one outfit that they feel their best in.
And this was highly helpful. First because Young made me re-appreciate what I’ve been wearing — clearly, these are outfits that make me feel my best. (Despite that being a phrase that makes me want to be wearing patent leather shoes and a Sunday hat.) Because I keep zeroing in on them, even after having pared my wardrobe down so drastically. And most days, I don’t need clothes to do anything more than provide weather-appropriate covering and make me feel good. So that’s pretty cool. It sort of makes me think this challenge would be useful to repeat for a week or so come spring/summer, to help hone in on whatever the warm weather equivalent of these outfits might be. Since it’s so cold right now, I can’t even remember what I wear in the summer. Shorts? Really? Do we ever get to walk around with that little clothing on? Seems so absurd.
And second, because Young reminded me that I DO have a dress in my closet that makes me feel good — and I hadn’t even worn it yet! Somehow we got all the way to Week #3 of the challenge with me not wearing my gray dress. Well! That’s being remedied today (with black leggings ’cause it’s wicked cold out) like so:
And it is something of a relief to have something “new” on. That also really, really works. Plus it’s sort of fancy to wear a dress (even a casual one) to work from home.
So I realize I’m not drawing any major light bulb moment type conclusions from this project just yet. Because on the one hand, I’m bored to tears and looking longingly at my toggle sweater/rest of closet. And on the other hand, I’d be just fine not wearing other clothes forever as long as the clothes I’ve got make me happy. But I’m thinking it might mean that while Six is too few, the 712 items usually crowded into my closet are far too many. And so, I’ve already got my eye on a new challenge, which starts next week (don’t worry, I’ll finish out this Six business first) and just might help me find a happy medium.
Thoughts? Anyone here have that One Dress (or One Whatever Item) that is your equivalent of the Little Black Dress? If so, how did you know it was The One? And if not, are you still searching for it, or are you more of a closet player?
If you’re curious to see what I’ve been wearing every single day of the challenge, check out my SIOL profile . There’s a little row of rainbow-colored squares under “Daily Check-In.” Click each square and you’ll see what I wore and how I felt about it.