Nope, today’s post isn’t about beauty or body image. We’re mixing it up a bit over iVillage, so be prepared to roll with it — and today I’m talking about new data that shows 43 percent of Gen X women (that’s those of you aged 33 to 46 — so technically, not me. I’m an X-3 years, or a Y+ or something) aren’t having kids.
Which is higher than ever before, so at first you’re all, hooray! More lifestyle options for everyone! Being single or married without kids doesn’t make you sad — it often makes you the most interesting (and well-read, well-traveled, well-dressed and well-rested) person at anyone’s dinner party.
Except I’ve been listening to (and participating in) a lot of conversations with childless or new-child-having or child-debating women in this general age bracket and I’m worried that these stats don’t just represent social progress. They also represent how we’re still faced with the same old choice — career vs. kids. Only now, careers are winning because workplaces haven’t adapted to give employees the kind of true flexibility we need to really “have it all.”
So that’s what I’m mulling over on iVillage today, and I’d love to hear your thoughts.
PS. For a longer look at what the American workplace would really have to do to make work + family go together like PB&J, read More Magazine’s Attack of the Woman-Dominated Workplace, by my friend Jennifer Braunschweiger, who lays it all out brilliantly.